The 7 Things That Create Meaningful Happiness

Happiness isn’t a fleeting emotion or some elusive high we have to chase, it’s a choice we can make every day; a way of living that changes how we see the world and the choices we make.

While external circumstances play a role, true happiness is built from within, shaped by our mindset, habits, and the way we engage with life.

The Pillars of Happiness

Just as there are pillars of Health — areas of our wellbeing that we must nurture to experience true and lasting health — these same pillars are how we can build deep, lasting happiness.

When we nurture each of these pillars they can lead to powerful changes, and if we are feeling ‘off’ or unhappy the answer can usually be found in one of these pillars too.

So what are these seven pillars?…. You can find them below:

Connection: Nurturing Meaningful Relationships

Humans are wired for connection. Studies show that strong relationships with family, friends, partners, and even our communities are one of the biggest predictors of long-term happiness.

Human connection is fundamental to holistic health, as strong relationships provide emotional support, a sense of belonging, and shared joy. When we nurture meaningful connection's with family, friends, community, or even nature we cultivate a deep sense of security and fulfilment.

Relationships encourage us to give and receive love, helping to reduce stress, boost resilience, and improve overall wellbeing.

The key is quality over quantity. Prioritise authentic connections; relationships where you feel seen, heard, and valued. These are how we create empathy, trust and a feeling of interconnectedness in our relationships, all things which are essential for a balanced and thriving life.

Invest time in those who uplift you, and don’t be afraid to let go of relationships that drain your energy.

Try this: Make a habit of reaching out to a loved one each day, even if it’s just a short message or a voice note.

Purpose: Living with Meaning

Living with purpose gives life direction and depth, aligning our daily actions with our core values. Having a sense of purpose whether through your work, creativity, or how you contribute to others gives life a sense of purpose fuels motivation, resilience, and fulfilment, as it allows us to contribute to something larger than ourselves.

Whether through work, creativity, relationships, or service, having a meaningful purpose enhances mental and emotional wellbeing. It helps us navigate challenges with a greater sense of clarity and determination, making each day feel more intentional and rewarding...

It’s not about chasing success or approval but aligning with what truly matters to you. Purpose brings fulfilment, resilience, and a deep sense of satisfaction.

Try this: Reflect on what excites you and what you naturally gravitate toward. How can you bring more of that into your daily life?

Gratitude: Shifting Your Perspective

Gratitude rewires the brain for happiness.

Gratitude is a powerful mindset that shifts focus from what is lacking to what is abundant. When we focus on what we have rather than what we lack, our energy shifts.

By appreciating the present moment, small joys, and everyday blessings, we cultivate a sense of contentment and reduce stress. We begin to see abundance instead of scarcity, possibility instead of limitation. The simple act of appreciating small moments — sunlight through the trees, a kind word, a warm meal — creates a ripple effect of positivity.

Gratitude enhances emotional resilience, strengthens relationships, and encourages a more optimistic outlook. When we regularly practice gratitude, we rewire our brains to recognise the positive, which in turn improves mental and physical health, fostering a deep sense of peace and satisfaction.

Try this: Keep a gratitude journal and write down three things you’re grateful for each day.

Presence: Embracing the Here and Now

Happiness isn’t found in the past or the future, it exists in the present moment. Yet, we often get caught up in regrets, worries, or endless to-do lists. Mindfulness helps us slow down, notice the beauty around us, and fully experience life.

Being present allows us to fully experience life as it unfolds, rather than dwelling on the past or worrying about the future. Embracing the here and now enhances mindfulness, reducing stress and increasing joy. When we are truly present, we deepen our connections, make clearer decisions, and appreciate the richness of each moment. Cultivating presence through practices like meditation, breathwork, or simply slowing down creates a sense of calm and clarity, supporting overall wellbeing.

Try this: Take a deep breath, look around, and name five things you can see, hear, or feel right now. This simple exercise brings you back to the present.

Growth: The Joy of Learning and Evolving

Stagnation leads to dissatisfaction, while growth fuels happiness. Growth is an essential part of a fulfilling life, as continuous learning and self-discovery keep the mind engaged and the spirit inspired.

Whether it’s learning a new skill, exploring a new perspective, or pushing yourself beyond your comfort zone, growth brings a sense of achievement and excitement. The happiest people view life as an ongoing journey of discovery.

When we embrace change and seek new experiences, we expand our perspectives, build resilience, and cultivate a sense of achievement. Growth allows us to evolve beyond limitations, unlocking new potential within ourselves. By maintaining curiosity and a willingness to learn, we create a life that is dynamic, meaningful, and rich with possibility.

Try this: Challenge yourself to try something new this week; a hobby, a book, or even a different route on your walk.

Self-Compassion: Being Kind to Yourself

We often speak to ourselves more harshly than we would to a friend. But happiness flourishes when we practice self-compassion; treating ourselves with kindness, patience, and understanding.

Self-compassion is the foundation of emotional wellbeing, allowing us to treat ourselves with the same kindness and understanding that we offer others. Instead of dwelling on mistakes, see them as part of the learning process.

When we embrace self-compassion, we replace self-judgment with gentleness, making space for healing and growth. Accepting our imperfections and mistakes with kindness fosters resilience, reduces anxiety, and strengthens self-worth. By being our own source of comfort and encouragement, we create a supportive inner environment that nurtures holistic wellbeing.

Try this: When you catch yourself in negative self-talk, pause and ask, “Would I say this to someone I love?” If not, reframe it with kindness.

Balance: Honouring Rest and Play

Happiness isn’t just about achieving goals; it’s also about rest, play, and enjoying life.

A balanced life acknowledges the need for both productivity and relaxation, effort and ease — Burnout and overwork drain joy, while time spent in nature, creative expression, and simple pleasures nourish the soul.

Honouring rest and play prevents burnout, enhances creativity, and restores energy, leading to greater overall wellbeing. When we allow ourselves moments of joy, fun, and stillness, we cultivate a deeper sense of harmony within our daily lives. Prioritising balance helps us stay grounded, resilient, and fully engaged in life, creating a sustainable rhythm that supports both our physical and emotional health. Balance allows happiness to flourish.

Try this: Schedule time for something that brings you joy, whether it’s a slow morning with coffee, dancing to your favourite song, or a walk in the fresh air.

Happiness isn’t a destination; it’s a practice. One we need to work on, hone, nourish and adapt as we live and grow. By cultivating connection, purpose, gratitude, presence, growth, self-compassion, and balance in each of our days we can build a life rich in meaning and joy.

Happiness is made from small, intentional choices that add up, so start today.

Which of these pillars speaks to you most right now?

xo Emily